In a day and age where beauty is dismally a like count on Instagram and Facebook, it makes me wonder…
Did you really wake up like that?
Definition of Flawless
I wish I looked like my Instagram. Why would I post a pic of myself I didn’t think was halfway decent? Trust me… if we all looked like our social media pages, life would be pure plastic. Conjured with moments that are picture perfect, with just the right lighting paired with a witty caption.
This morning I tried to take a #selfie when I woke up, only finding that I could only semi-like it if I put an iPhone filter on it. So yes, I woke up like this… for reals. Slapped with a filter.
Flawless? I think so.
- I have one body. No matter how much I try to look like someone else, I won’t. Embrace yours.
- Confidence. If you don’t have confidence in yourself to think you’re beautiful, why would anyone else?
- I take care of myself. You can choose to nourish your body with proper food and exercise. Don’t trash yours.
- Your parents. If you criticize yourself, you are only hating on your parents genes. They made you, thank them!
- God made us all different for a reason. Variety is what makes life beautiful. Could you imagine if we only had vanilla ice-cream to choose from? BLAH. Gimmie that daiquiri ice or chocolate fudge brownie with cookie dough.
- Beauty is subjective. What is average to one, is a treasure to another. We may have a social, biological measurement to what most find to be “physically attractive”, the waist-to-hip ratio, the facial geometric measurement scale, hair, skin and height of a person, but if you’ve noticed, not every #MCM or #WCW is the same. Like I said, beauty is subjective.
Queen B (Beyonce) tells us women to say, “I woke up like this” not implying we wake up looking like absolute perfection, that would be an oxymoron. But to wake up feeling confident and good about yourself. “I woke up feeling good.” Life is too short to feel any other way.
Why do I wear makeup?
Sometimes I don’t get enough sleep, I like to cover my uneven skin, add a bit more warmth with blush or bronzer, make my eyes appear more awake and brighter by using mascara. Other times I want to leave my house with absolutely no makeup. Rubbing your eyes without mascara is a heaven boys will never quite understand.
And then there are times when I want to go out and maybe find a cute guy to flirt with, I want to look the best I can for myself and I wanna look good for all those group photos with the girls. It all comes down to my own confidence and comfortability.
Some women are REALLY good at applying makeup and transforming their faces to look like an entirely different human being. I can see how that would be frightening to men. But here’s why I think it doesn’t really matter.
In 60 years, no matter what kind of magical makeup you’re using, your youth and beauty will have passed, and you are solely left with your humor, your wit, your intellect and your shining personality. So sure, makeup may fool for a short time, but when you spend time with a woman, really, truly make the time and effort to get to know who she really is, the makeup shouldn’t make a difference. You’ll find that their soul is more beautiful than any makeup could ever make a girl. Or, you may realize that the face behind the pretty makeup is a person who is not as genuine as you once thought. Making her #seflies not as likable as before.
Choose wisely and girls, wear what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. Whether that’s 10 pounds of foundation, or only SPF. As long as you feel beautiful and happy, then don’t worry about anyone else!
Less judgy, more lovey